October 23
When My Side Is Small
It is unsettling to discover how few people share our view. We look around, expecting another hand, and find ourselves nearly alone. The embarrassment may turn into certainty: everyone else must be careless, confused, or afraid to tell the truth. Being outnumbered can become a strange kind of proof that we are the only ones thinking independently.
A minority opinion deserves consideration without becoming sacred. We still owe the conversation reasons, facts, and a willingness to hear answers. Concept Five values even a mistaken minority because its questions can improve deliberation. That leaves us free to contribute without having to be the misunderstood hero of the meeting. Perhaps we have noticed something important. Perhaps someone will explain what we missed. Either way, our dignity need not depend on the final vote. We belong to the group while our idea is being examined, just as everyone else does.
What happens to my listening when I realize I am in the minority?
Being outnumbered has not settled whether I am right.
For the A.A. nerds: Twelve Concepts for World Service, Concept V.